I have been doing a lot of reminiscing and thinking back to situations when I was younger that use to make me mad. No matter what the situation is, I know now we have no control over what and how people react and do things. Because at the end of any situation in life we always have a choice.
Yes, i said it. A CHOICE. A move we can make.
I am an analyzer, and also a libra lol. So before I make any move I really have to think about situations.
But this isn't about me. It's more about forgiving yourself after an argument or something you did that hurt another person.
You must be thinking, "Forgiving yourself? Alba don't you mean forgiving the other person that made you upset?"
Well yes, you have to (or choose to) forgive them, but before you forgive them, you MUST really forgive yourself. How can forgiving yourself help you?
Lets first start with letting that tension go. Getting angry takes away more energy than being happy. Its a fact. So while your upset about a situation that you can't really control or if its not going the way you planned, you are already wasting your energy mad about it then really trying to solve it or let it go in its own direction.
May sound a little confusing, but observe another fight or situation you or someone else may be in, and you will see! I promise.
I am going to share with you a VERY personal story, that made me feel mad, upset, angry, pissed, sad, ... EVERYTHING.
I was a senior in high school, and graduation was coming up. In about 4-5 days. My class and I were going on senior trips, excited for the big day. That Wednesday our class was going paint balling. While everyone was outside getting their cars ready, some one told me my principal was looking for me. I got called into the principals office to face the worst news of my life (at that moment).
*Mind you, during my college application phase earlier that year, I literally kept receiving rejection after rejection. No acceptances, but 2 out of my list. I was frustrated and depressed. Seeing all my friends get acceptances while I was getting rejected was probably the hardest. Going to a College Prep school wasn't helping the situation in any way. I ended up getting a full scholarship to do a gap year in Brazil (which was my life saver at such a down peak). *Happy dance*
But back to the story. My principal told me I wouldn't be graduating with my class (which was 2 days BEFORE graduadtion). Because of an end of the year research paper in which I failed by TWO points. (I never failed a class in my whole middle-high school life)... I broke down, I pleaded to just walk on the aisle with an empty diploma and make up my paper.
She didn't budge. What I wanted most in my life at the time was my dad to see me cross the stage. He moved to Florida when I was 11 and he was traveling to my hometown, Boston for my graduation. I kid you not, that is all I wanted, to hear the words "I am proud."
I committed to my middle and high school so much; throughout my passion of clubs and any leadership roles I can grasp. And I never failed a class before! Never would I have thought I wouldn't have walked with my class.
The point? Well after that situation, I HATED every teacher in my school that existed. I felt like they looked down on me because:
a) I wasn't going straight into college
b) I didn't graduate with my class
I felt like everyone was against me. My parents didn't understand, my family was not really supportive of me going off for a year out of the country. It felt like everything was just going down hill.
But once I left the U.S, I realized I still held a lot of that hate within me. And I kid you not I felt it in my chest like a big ball wanting to just explode. And thats exactly what I did. I talked about the situation with my friends abroad and just cried. I yelled, I swam in the water to let all that held in energy completely go...FREE. But what really helped me was writing.
I chose to forgive myself, and remind myself that I did nothing wrong. That I am valuable and I am unique. Remind myself, that my path may be the one I hadn't planned, but it sure was going to make me happy no matter what problem came across.
Then little by little I began to forgive everyone else. Not like I told them "I forgive you". But in my sanctuary place. Where only I knew. I had truly forgave them and did not keep ahold of any sort of grudge. Didn't happen over night, but over months.
There is always an outlet. You just have to find your own outlet, the one that truly frees you from any sort of negative energy that YOU do not really need in your life to truly be happy.
The challenge is to be aware and consistent with forgiveness. There is always a challenge you can over come.
Peace&Love,
Alba
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Friday, March 7, 2014
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
10 things you can do before sunrise
Many of us complain that we never have enough time in the day to do the things we want. It is very false. We have 24 hours every day to accomplish all that we desire. The difference about 'making time' is you have to sacrifice something to make little changes become stronger.
E.g- If you want to get in shape and work a 9-5 job, knowing you usually are exhausted after work.. maybe you should wake up earlier and work out for at least 15-30 minutes daily. Think about it, these little 15-30 minutes daily can actually impact your body and health by being consistent and pushing yourself just a little bit. It can guide you to a better you.
Here is a list of 10 things me and my sis came up with to do before sunrise. There is no particular order. (And if you don't know when your sunrise is, check the weather guide the day before to plan ahead!)
FYI you can do more than 1 of these things, 5-10 minutes banging out at least three is a good start. No pressure at all, go at your pace, but if you want a change you must start small first.
1) Meditate, some people think you have to meditate for a long period of time, in actuality you can meditate for however long you want. Just be in the moment.
2) Write your thoughts or gratitude in your journal (if you don't have one, get one! Observing where your thoughts are every day can help you turn more to the positive side.)
3) Make a toDAY-do list
4) Read, an interesting book, a new series, anything that interests you and will inspire you to be an awesome YOU!
5) Work out
6) Make breakfast
7) Paint, sketch, doodle anything creative that comes to your finger tips! Adults can be kids too.
8) Take a yoga class (@ Yoga to the people for my New York & Cali people! Check out their site for more info)
9) Reach out to a loved one via email, text, phone and tell them you appreciate them in your life, let them know they are not alone, and wish them a beautiful blessed day.
10) Prepare your meal for the day. Wanting to save money but find yourself not having enough time to make your lunch the day before, do it the morning!
E.g- If you want to get in shape and work a 9-5 job, knowing you usually are exhausted after work.. maybe you should wake up earlier and work out for at least 15-30 minutes daily. Think about it, these little 15-30 minutes daily can actually impact your body and health by being consistent and pushing yourself just a little bit. It can guide you to a better you.
Here is a list of 10 things me and my sis came up with to do before sunrise. There is no particular order. (And if you don't know when your sunrise is, check the weather guide the day before to plan ahead!)
FYI you can do more than 1 of these things, 5-10 minutes banging out at least three is a good start. No pressure at all, go at your pace, but if you want a change you must start small first.
1) Meditate, some people think you have to meditate for a long period of time, in actuality you can meditate for however long you want. Just be in the moment.
2) Write your thoughts or gratitude in your journal (if you don't have one, get one! Observing where your thoughts are every day can help you turn more to the positive side.)
3) Make a toDAY-do list
4) Read, an interesting book, a new series, anything that interests you and will inspire you to be an awesome YOU!
5) Work out
6) Make breakfast
7) Paint, sketch, doodle anything creative that comes to your finger tips! Adults can be kids too.
8) Take a yoga class (@ Yoga to the people for my New York & Cali people! Check out their site for more info)
9) Reach out to a loved one via email, text, phone and tell them you appreciate them in your life, let them know they are not alone, and wish them a beautiful blessed day.
10) Prepare your meal for the day. Wanting to save money but find yourself not having enough time to make your lunch the day before, do it the morning!
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Don't you want real news?
Hey guys!
Like what really happens behind closed doors when the cameras are off?
How this came up to me is because I graduated high school with out knowing a lick about REAL life. I mean loans, stocks, bills, investment plans, health and life insurance, retirement plans, The real things we actually need to know about in life! You know?
Thank God my first job was at a financial advisor's office!
Why in the world won't schools teach us the things we need to know. Each teacher will tell you the same B.S. example math teacher : "your going to need to know this when you get in the real world" shut up!!! Half the things I learned in school have not popped up in my life. Hey don't get me wrong I love math, it was my favorite and best class since k-1, but seriously unless I am an accountant I don't need most of that s*€%$ !
The real problem is the system not feeding us the right and real information. It's all about controlling the people blahblahblah. It's not fair to us, if we make most of the population on earth why lie to us through media? Well my first answer to my own question would simply be business. Everything is a business. Even marriage. If we all have to pay for a marriage license, and most of us get divorced ( which is way more $ than the stupid license) , the state will clearly make more money off of everyone getting divorced. (Hey these are my opinions and theories lol! )
But if you guys disagree or have your own opinions please do share in a comment below!
This all came about bc I always see people on the subway with newspapers of scattered news.
Peace&love,
Alba
Monday, October 14, 2013
Do you stop and think that your alone?
Hey Guys!
Lately I have been so busy doing so many things it feels like I never have time for myself. But when I stop and think for one second and realize I am not alone, I can't help but smile. Because people usually feel alone when their doing their thing in terms of working or "grinding" and focusing on them. Hey I am not going to lie, sometimes I do! What I really want to talk about is the value of friendship.
How beautiful it is to be YOURSELF 100% of the time around someone that knows you so well and loves, supports you all the way.
I was never really a only child, I mean I was for a while, but my father had four other kids before me with my stepmom and I was always surrounded by my older sisters when I would visit them in New York. I always lived in Boston, but I was my mom's first child. Growing up was not as hard as I would have thought (I also had step brothers and sisters) So I was always surrounded by many people and of course my cousins. I only had one- three people that really knew me. We were close and shared everything with each other. But as we grow up our imagination gets smaller and we tend to throw away a lot of what we think about because our focus is on other things.
Friendship is something so beautiful that everyone encounters in sometime in their life. There are bad moments and sad moments but when you see the progress youre friendship/ relationship has made in just 5 years; you realize how much you care for one another. Also how much you both have grown as an individual and as a team.
Moving away from my small hometown to the loud, fast pace New York City has shown me that friendships are always going to present themselves no matter where and what state of mind I am in. (Even though you can get lost in NYC) The hard part is always showing appreciation frequently and letting the other person know how much you truly care for them.
But in all relationships come hardships, what matters at the end of the day is that you participate in the relationship, because thats what its really about. Working together as a team! 50/50! And always being their no matter the distance!
Whats one thing you do to keep you're friendships strong?
Peace&love,
Alba
Lately I have been so busy doing so many things it feels like I never have time for myself. But when I stop and think for one second and realize I am not alone, I can't help but smile. Because people usually feel alone when their doing their thing in terms of working or "grinding" and focusing on them. Hey I am not going to lie, sometimes I do! What I really want to talk about is the value of friendship.
How beautiful it is to be YOURSELF 100% of the time around someone that knows you so well and loves, supports you all the way.
I was never really a only child, I mean I was for a while, but my father had four other kids before me with my stepmom and I was always surrounded by my older sisters when I would visit them in New York. I always lived in Boston, but I was my mom's first child. Growing up was not as hard as I would have thought (I also had step brothers and sisters) So I was always surrounded by many people and of course my cousins. I only had one- three people that really knew me. We were close and shared everything with each other. But as we grow up our imagination gets smaller and we tend to throw away a lot of what we think about because our focus is on other things.
Friendship is something so beautiful that everyone encounters in sometime in their life. There are bad moments and sad moments but when you see the progress youre friendship/ relationship has made in just 5 years; you realize how much you care for one another. Also how much you both have grown as an individual and as a team.
Moving away from my small hometown to the loud, fast pace New York City has shown me that friendships are always going to present themselves no matter where and what state of mind I am in. (Even though you can get lost in NYC) The hard part is always showing appreciation frequently and letting the other person know how much you truly care for them.
But in all relationships come hardships, what matters at the end of the day is that you participate in the relationship, because thats what its really about. Working together as a team! 50/50! And always being their no matter the distance!
Whats one thing you do to keep you're friendships strong?
Peace&love,
Alba
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Are you always Angry?
Hey guys!
Anger being a waste of energy? Does anger make things worse? Maybe once or just all the time?
Honestly this is such a iffy topic to talk about because when you feel angry most of the time you dont really think about the consequences that come after. For example your brother uses one of your favorite shirts you just bought, you haven't even worn it yet and he wears it to school! So your pissed at the moment and you curse him out and tell him you hate having a brother and wish you never had one, just saying the nastiest things. After a while your blood is still boiling and things can go many different ways. But either at this point you yare feeling so ... overly charged with so much energy you don't even know where to even put or leave it. So you punch a wall or scream in your pillow and feel a little bit better. But what if your brother knows you didn't mean those things and later on really contemplates on it. Being "emotional" about it (as everyone says) or he let the words get to him. Now what? You apologize or maybe just try to brush it off like it never happened. But that energy is still there, within both of you. Sometimes we don't have the power to even control that.. or do we? What about for the people that can't really control how angry they get; where they can not think for a second right before they get angry and think to themselves " hmmmp, I am about to angry and I don't really care for what anyone even thinks." That never happens. Emotions just happen no matter how much we try to hold back, and pretend they are not there.
Anger is so powerful that no one can ever catch it before it slips out. What is the real definition of anger? or being angry?
Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.
Definition from: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/anger/what-anger
Some say it can be healthy or it could be opposite. Honestly my opinion of being angry: it is not worth wasting negative energy when that can be put into positive energy that can benefit you!! (But again being angry happens to everyone!) Emotions is another topic.. but do we seek emotions to feel more comfortable?
Being conscious is one thing, but taking action and trying new ways to become less angry takes practice. Whats one way you try to not get so upset?
Peace&love,
Alba
Anger being a waste of energy? Does anger make things worse? Maybe once or just all the time?
Honestly this is such a iffy topic to talk about because when you feel angry most of the time you dont really think about the consequences that come after. For example your brother uses one of your favorite shirts you just bought, you haven't even worn it yet and he wears it to school! So your pissed at the moment and you curse him out and tell him you hate having a brother and wish you never had one, just saying the nastiest things. After a while your blood is still boiling and things can go many different ways. But either at this point you yare feeling so ... overly charged with so much energy you don't even know where to even put or leave it. So you punch a wall or scream in your pillow and feel a little bit better. But what if your brother knows you didn't mean those things and later on really contemplates on it. Being "emotional" about it (as everyone says) or he let the words get to him. Now what? You apologize or maybe just try to brush it off like it never happened. But that energy is still there, within both of you. Sometimes we don't have the power to even control that.. or do we? What about for the people that can't really control how angry they get; where they can not think for a second right before they get angry and think to themselves " hmmmp, I am about to angry and I don't really care for what anyone even thinks." That never happens. Emotions just happen no matter how much we try to hold back, and pretend they are not there.
Anger is so powerful that no one can ever catch it before it slips out. What is the real definition of anger? or being angry?
Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.
Definition from: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/anger/what-anger
Some say it can be healthy or it could be opposite. Honestly my opinion of being angry: it is not worth wasting negative energy when that can be put into positive energy that can benefit you!! (But again being angry happens to everyone!) Emotions is another topic.. but do we seek emotions to feel more comfortable?
Being conscious is one thing, but taking action and trying new ways to become less angry takes practice. Whats one way you try to not get so upset?
Peace&love,
Alba
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