Owe $, but don't know where to start?

He guys,

Actually owing someone something…hmmmm ? This is a very touchy subject to talk about since we all don't like to borrow. But what frustrates me is when someone does a favor for you and puts it in your face that you "owe" them something. 

.... First, if you didn't want to the favor from the kindness of your heart than why do it all? Seriously. 

Secondly, The consistency of hearing the nagging and bragging on how you owe someone something back is annoying. (For example) What if your at the point where you can't give them the money you borrowed and would love to give it to them but financially can't right now. How to explain it? To your friend, your family, your boss? How can you make them understand where your coming from?

Thirdly, it's about working together. If you feel the person dodging you purposely, you might as well explain how you are feeling about the situation. "Hinting" at owing money makes situations awkward and unclear. Work together not against. 

from: bawldguy.com 

The solution is clear however most of us don't even do it. Hey I for sure "owe" a lot of things and really wish I could unleash myself from "owing back". But I'm figuring out a way.  It starts off with communication, not "bitching" but communicate effectively on your situation, what your willing to do to "pay your owe", how it bothers you when they bring the situation up in front of others when it's really between you and the other person, how it really makes you feel. I know you must be thinking "oh how emotional can this person get" but this is the problem within the human population. We want to hide how we feel, which leads to making situations worse, and how we feel inside even worse. 

It starts off with realizing you have pain within you that is held back, and forgiving yourself, others in order to move forward. Communicate and situations will come out smooth, positive, and effective. What you put into a situation is what you will receive. 

There is always a formula!!!  

Peace&love,

Alba

Don't you want real news?

Hey guys!

Something that has always bothered me is why doesn't the news actually tell us what we really need to know? All these news stations say the same exact thing, trying to move our attention or blind us to the reality of current news.

Like what really happens behind closed doors when the cameras are off?

How this came up to me is because I graduated high school with out knowing a lick about REAL life. I mean loans, stocks, bills, investment plans, health and life insurance,  retirement plans, The real things we actually need to know about in life! You know? 

Thank God my first job was at a financial advisor's office!

Why in the world won't schools teach us the things we need to know. Each teacher will tell you the same B.S. example math teacher : "your going to need to know this when you get in the real world" shut up!!! Half the things I learned in school have not popped up in my life. Hey don't get me wrong I love math, it was my favorite and best class since k-1, but seriously unless I am an accountant I don't need most of that s*€%$ ! 

The real problem is the system not feeding us the right and real information. It's all about controlling the people blahblahblah. It's not fair to us, if we make most of the population on earth why lie to us through media? Well my first answer to my own question would simply be business. Everything is a business. Even marriage.  If we all have to pay for a marriage license, and most of us get divorced ( which is way more $ than the stupid license) , the state will  clearly make more money off of everyone getting divorced.  (Hey these are my opinions and theories lol! ) 

But if you guys disagree or have your own opinions please do share in a comment below!

This all came about bc I always see people on the subway with newspapers of scattered news. 

Peace&love,

Alba

Look into my eyes..not the Ground

Hey Guys!



So sorry I haven't written to you guys in a week, to me it feels like years! lol.. still trying to make this fit into my schedule since I have no wi-fi at home :(  ! Anyways hope you guys ended the month of January very well, and have started February on a great start! 


Todays topic is going to be one that has came to mind almost everyday while I ride the subway here in New York. Lets be honest here, when you get on the train or bus what do you automatically do?  Look for a seat, find one, sit down, and take out you're phone, book, or magazine? I mean we all do it, or just go to sleep because you woke up either too early or its late from coming out of work. For me, riding the subway is time for me to get an inspirational or spiritual awakening to start off my day in a positive mood. (Most of the times or read). But as an actress and as a normal human being I love to observe people.  I mean we all are so different.  Not just shape, size, and color.  But in the way that we all behave of course.  


People rarely look at each other on the subway. Why?  My personal opinion is the feeling when you make eye contact with someone.  The possibilities of what they might think just because you were looking at them.  Do they think I think they are cute? Or do they think I want to fight them, or if they are being annoying and they need to stop talking so much, or walking up and down the train cart like they own the place?  

See what I mean? the possibilities are so very endless. When we feel some type of discomfort we automatically look down and try to go into our own worlds so that no one can bother us.  It's just natural instinct. 

But what most of us are forgetting and cutting off is the exciting world that surrounds us.  Everyday you can discover something new just by watching someones reaction. I don't mean on the creeper status either guys! I mean nowadays technology takes away from our daily interacting physically, and our moment to just be in the moment and not in our "busy social life".  That can only be fun to a certain extent.  For me after a while, I get headaches from looking down on my iPhone for so  long and my neck starts hurting. And lets face it the train seats are not very comfortable!  I get so aggravated myself because even if I dont have service underground I'm still looking for something to do or find because I think I am bored.  But boredom is simply a choice of wanting to do something interesting. And if you guys don't believe me here is the definition I pulled out from google: 

bored  

/bôrd/

Adjective Feeling weary because one is unoccupied or lacks interest in one's current activity

I mean who am I to tell you what to do on your spare time traveling from place to place right?  I just want to suggest to you all, that technology is not the only thing that is fun.  Remember when you were a kid?  You actually rode a bike? or went to the park, colored in a coloring book, went sledding, played board games, actually cared about carrying cool conversations with friends. I mean sheesh there is so much more to humanity than just going on Facebook or Twitter all the time when you are "bored"  All you gotta do is look up and discover. Try it some time!

Peace& love,

Alba