Happy Tuesday!
For all my ladies out there,
Did you ever have a conversation with one of your friends talking about a guy that you both had a crush on? Or have you ever wondered if any guy had a crush on you and your friend? How would you react? Would you tell your friend? What if he tried to talk to you and your friend at the same time? What would you really do?
These awkward situations are the worst I tell you. But how you react is the most important part. Being loyal to your friend or family member. Just be honest.
Even if you don't like the guy communication is key. To him AND your friend. This all came about the other day.
A couple weeks ago I went out with my sister to an event. It was an amazing event, tons of people all kinds- artists, dancers, singer, EVERYTHANG! I was talking to other people, meeting new people, you know the usual when you go out and want to make new friends!
I go to another part of the event and mingle and my sister goes to another part to mingle and by the end of the night we gave out our contact information to a couple of people.
We leave all happy and yuppie because it was super fun! A couple days later some guy txts me from the event and I'm like 'hey wassup!'( The thing is the whole time I thought it was one of the girls I met that night. But I was wrong in the end. It was a guy though.. ) Conversations just rolling by, just being friendly you know? BUT now a days people take friendliness and being nice for flirting! (PSHHH YEAH OK DUDE RELAX).
So this guy is trying to meet up and hang. But I've been busy working and doing other stuff. I told my sister this guy is texting me non-stop from the other night and she's like 'stop texting lol.' But I feel weird being indirect. One hour later she texts me and tells me the same guy is trying to hang out with her now!!
In theory, the guy texted my sister because of the rejection from being able to hang out with me….?
The guy, forgetting she was my sister, (since we were doing our own things that night of the event,) the guy must of thought he was being all slick and gangstaaaa but HOMIE YOU GOT CAUGHT. *gun shots* just kidding!
The thing is, boys will boys and do whatever they think is right (and they talk about women wanting to be right) it goes both ways! But everyone will crack and break away from their old habits on their own. No one can force anyone but themselves to honestly change.
The best thing about being upfront about things that happen daily in your life is just feeling like yourself. Sometimes holding back isn't the answer. Finding a way to export emotions: happy-sad- to whatever emotion: is a gift. Even if its a notebook where you write your heart out, brining it out is a relief.
Try it out!
Peace&love,
Alba
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Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Owe $, but don't know where to start?
He guys,
Actually owing someone something…hmmmm ? This is a very touchy subject to talk about since we all don't like to borrow. But what frustrates me is when someone does a favor for you and puts it in your face that you "owe" them something.
.... First, if you didn't want to the favor from the kindness of your heart than why do it all? Seriously.
Secondly, The consistency of hearing the nagging and bragging on how you owe someone something back is annoying. (For example) What if your at the point where you can't give them the money you borrowed and would love to give it to them but financially can't right now. How to explain it? To your friend, your family, your boss? How can you make them understand where your coming from?
Thirdly, it's about working together. If you feel the person dodging you purposely, you might as well explain how you are feeling about the situation. "Hinting" at owing money makes situations awkward and unclear. Work together not against.
The solution is clear however most of us don't even do it. Hey I for sure "owe" a lot of things and really wish I could unleash myself from "owing back". But I'm figuring out a way. It starts off with communication, not "bitching" but communicate effectively on your situation, what your willing to do to "pay your owe", how it bothers you when they bring the situation up in front of others when it's really between you and the other person, how it really makes you feel. I know you must be thinking "oh how emotional can this person get" but this is the problem within the human population. We want to hide how we feel, which leads to making situations worse, and how we feel inside even worse.
It starts off with realizing you have pain within you that is held back, and forgiving yourself, others in order to move forward. Communicate and situations will come out smooth, positive, and effective. What you put into a situation is what you will receive.
There is always a formula!!!
Peace&love,
Alba
Don't you want real news?
Hey guys!
Like what really happens behind closed doors when the cameras are off?
How this came up to me is because I graduated high school with out knowing a lick about REAL life. I mean loans, stocks, bills, investment plans, health and life insurance, retirement plans, The real things we actually need to know about in life! You know?
Thank God my first job was at a financial advisor's office!
Why in the world won't schools teach us the things we need to know. Each teacher will tell you the same B.S. example math teacher : "your going to need to know this when you get in the real world" shut up!!! Half the things I learned in school have not popped up in my life. Hey don't get me wrong I love math, it was my favorite and best class since k-1, but seriously unless I am an accountant I don't need most of that s*€%$ !
The real problem is the system not feeding us the right and real information. It's all about controlling the people blahblahblah. It's not fair to us, if we make most of the population on earth why lie to us through media? Well my first answer to my own question would simply be business. Everything is a business. Even marriage. If we all have to pay for a marriage license, and most of us get divorced ( which is way more $ than the stupid license) , the state will clearly make more money off of everyone getting divorced. (Hey these are my opinions and theories lol! )
But if you guys disagree or have your own opinions please do share in a comment below!
This all came about bc I always see people on the subway with newspapers of scattered news.
Peace&love,
Alba
Monday, October 14, 2013
Do you stop and think that your alone?
Hey Guys!
Lately I have been so busy doing so many things it feels like I never have time for myself. But when I stop and think for one second and realize I am not alone, I can't help but smile. Because people usually feel alone when their doing their thing in terms of working or "grinding" and focusing on them. Hey I am not going to lie, sometimes I do! What I really want to talk about is the value of friendship.
How beautiful it is to be YOURSELF 100% of the time around someone that knows you so well and loves, supports you all the way.
I was never really a only child, I mean I was for a while, but my father had four other kids before me with my stepmom and I was always surrounded by my older sisters when I would visit them in New York. I always lived in Boston, but I was my mom's first child. Growing up was not as hard as I would have thought (I also had step brothers and sisters) So I was always surrounded by many people and of course my cousins. I only had one- three people that really knew me. We were close and shared everything with each other. But as we grow up our imagination gets smaller and we tend to throw away a lot of what we think about because our focus is on other things.
Friendship is something so beautiful that everyone encounters in sometime in their life. There are bad moments and sad moments but when you see the progress youre friendship/ relationship has made in just 5 years; you realize how much you care for one another. Also how much you both have grown as an individual and as a team.
Moving away from my small hometown to the loud, fast pace New York City has shown me that friendships are always going to present themselves no matter where and what state of mind I am in. (Even though you can get lost in NYC) The hard part is always showing appreciation frequently and letting the other person know how much you truly care for them.
But in all relationships come hardships, what matters at the end of the day is that you participate in the relationship, because thats what its really about. Working together as a team! 50/50! And always being their no matter the distance!
Whats one thing you do to keep you're friendships strong?
Peace&love,
Alba
Lately I have been so busy doing so many things it feels like I never have time for myself. But when I stop and think for one second and realize I am not alone, I can't help but smile. Because people usually feel alone when their doing their thing in terms of working or "grinding" and focusing on them. Hey I am not going to lie, sometimes I do! What I really want to talk about is the value of friendship.
How beautiful it is to be YOURSELF 100% of the time around someone that knows you so well and loves, supports you all the way.
I was never really a only child, I mean I was for a while, but my father had four other kids before me with my stepmom and I was always surrounded by my older sisters when I would visit them in New York. I always lived in Boston, but I was my mom's first child. Growing up was not as hard as I would have thought (I also had step brothers and sisters) So I was always surrounded by many people and of course my cousins. I only had one- three people that really knew me. We were close and shared everything with each other. But as we grow up our imagination gets smaller and we tend to throw away a lot of what we think about because our focus is on other things.
Friendship is something so beautiful that everyone encounters in sometime in their life. There are bad moments and sad moments but when you see the progress youre friendship/ relationship has made in just 5 years; you realize how much you care for one another. Also how much you both have grown as an individual and as a team.
Moving away from my small hometown to the loud, fast pace New York City has shown me that friendships are always going to present themselves no matter where and what state of mind I am in. (Even though you can get lost in NYC) The hard part is always showing appreciation frequently and letting the other person know how much you truly care for them.
But in all relationships come hardships, what matters at the end of the day is that you participate in the relationship, because thats what its really about. Working together as a team! 50/50! And always being their no matter the distance!
Whats one thing you do to keep you're friendships strong?
Peace&love,
Alba
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Are you always Angry?
Hey guys!
Anger being a waste of energy? Does anger make things worse? Maybe once or just all the time?
Honestly this is such a iffy topic to talk about because when you feel angry most of the time you dont really think about the consequences that come after. For example your brother uses one of your favorite shirts you just bought, you haven't even worn it yet and he wears it to school! So your pissed at the moment and you curse him out and tell him you hate having a brother and wish you never had one, just saying the nastiest things. After a while your blood is still boiling and things can go many different ways. But either at this point you yare feeling so ... overly charged with so much energy you don't even know where to even put or leave it. So you punch a wall or scream in your pillow and feel a little bit better. But what if your brother knows you didn't mean those things and later on really contemplates on it. Being "emotional" about it (as everyone says) or he let the words get to him. Now what? You apologize or maybe just try to brush it off like it never happened. But that energy is still there, within both of you. Sometimes we don't have the power to even control that.. or do we? What about for the people that can't really control how angry they get; where they can not think for a second right before they get angry and think to themselves " hmmmp, I am about to angry and I don't really care for what anyone even thinks." That never happens. Emotions just happen no matter how much we try to hold back, and pretend they are not there.
Anger is so powerful that no one can ever catch it before it slips out. What is the real definition of anger? or being angry?
Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.
Definition from: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/anger/what-anger
Some say it can be healthy or it could be opposite. Honestly my opinion of being angry: it is not worth wasting negative energy when that can be put into positive energy that can benefit you!! (But again being angry happens to everyone!) Emotions is another topic.. but do we seek emotions to feel more comfortable?
Being conscious is one thing, but taking action and trying new ways to become less angry takes practice. Whats one way you try to not get so upset?
Peace&love,
Alba
Anger being a waste of energy? Does anger make things worse? Maybe once or just all the time?
Honestly this is such a iffy topic to talk about because when you feel angry most of the time you dont really think about the consequences that come after. For example your brother uses one of your favorite shirts you just bought, you haven't even worn it yet and he wears it to school! So your pissed at the moment and you curse him out and tell him you hate having a brother and wish you never had one, just saying the nastiest things. After a while your blood is still boiling and things can go many different ways. But either at this point you yare feeling so ... overly charged with so much energy you don't even know where to even put or leave it. So you punch a wall or scream in your pillow and feel a little bit better. But what if your brother knows you didn't mean those things and later on really contemplates on it. Being "emotional" about it (as everyone says) or he let the words get to him. Now what? You apologize or maybe just try to brush it off like it never happened. But that energy is still there, within both of you. Sometimes we don't have the power to even control that.. or do we? What about for the people that can't really control how angry they get; where they can not think for a second right before they get angry and think to themselves " hmmmp, I am about to angry and I don't really care for what anyone even thinks." That never happens. Emotions just happen no matter how much we try to hold back, and pretend they are not there.
Anger is so powerful that no one can ever catch it before it slips out. What is the real definition of anger? or being angry?
Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.
Definition from: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/anger/what-anger
Some say it can be healthy or it could be opposite. Honestly my opinion of being angry: it is not worth wasting negative energy when that can be put into positive energy that can benefit you!! (But again being angry happens to everyone!) Emotions is another topic.. but do we seek emotions to feel more comfortable?
Being conscious is one thing, but taking action and trying new ways to become less angry takes practice. Whats one way you try to not get so upset?
Peace&love,
Alba
Monday, May 13, 2013
Stuck in a place unknown?
Hey Guys!
Lately I have been stuck in my thoughts and not able to express myself. I am not going to lie it is a weird place to be for me. At one point I felt like I was going to explode with words. But I haven't :( just yet!
I honestly feel over worked.. but of what? All I have been doing is school and preparing for "the real world". Maybe I am in need of a vacation or maybe I just want the summer to come already , wouldn't that be nice! But I think right now in my life I am just feeling overwhelmed for the next step. As most college kids that go to school for an amount of time and graduate.. we often question ourselves about jobs or what going to happen after this. This is kind of the issue, we are always trying to be ahead f the game or thinking in the future rather than the NOW.
It is totally normal but with our generation we are so used to getting what we want in seconds.. and this is where we start to panic when we don't get what we expect. How could this be solved or fixed? I have no idea, but what I do know is that we can start to learn from our parents generation.
Ask questions, read, go to the library, or put yourself out there to want to learn. I was having a conversation with one of my teachers from school and he said that our generation here in the US is known to be the dumbest, compared to other countries. I couldn't bare the truth and of course was beyond offended with his opinion and said you can't categorize everyone into that. All because of the decline in the average human IQ. Supposedly the more the population grows the dumber we get. I don't know how I feel about this but I do know we need to make a change!
What are you're thoughts and opinons?
peace&love,
alba
Lately I have been stuck in my thoughts and not able to express myself. I am not going to lie it is a weird place to be for me. At one point I felt like I was going to explode with words. But I haven't :( just yet!
I honestly feel over worked.. but of what? All I have been doing is school and preparing for "the real world". Maybe I am in need of a vacation or maybe I just want the summer to come already , wouldn't that be nice! But I think right now in my life I am just feeling overwhelmed for the next step. As most college kids that go to school for an amount of time and graduate.. we often question ourselves about jobs or what going to happen after this. This is kind of the issue, we are always trying to be ahead f the game or thinking in the future rather than the NOW.
It is totally normal but with our generation we are so used to getting what we want in seconds.. and this is where we start to panic when we don't get what we expect. How could this be solved or fixed? I have no idea, but what I do know is that we can start to learn from our parents generation.
Ask questions, read, go to the library, or put yourself out there to want to learn. I was having a conversation with one of my teachers from school and he said that our generation here in the US is known to be the dumbest, compared to other countries. I couldn't bare the truth and of course was beyond offended with his opinion and said you can't categorize everyone into that. All because of the decline in the average human IQ. Supposedly the more the population grows the dumber we get. I don't know how I feel about this but I do know we need to make a change!
What are you're thoughts and opinons?
peace&love,
alba
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